Couldn't do a list of ways to play without checking in with the experts. They make it look so natural.
During a recent TV interview about improv helping with anxiety, the reporter asked/told me, “But you’re not saying this is a cure, it’s just another thing you can do as therapy. It’s a way to cope.”
I hate the word cope. Coping. Barf.
I used to be an asshole. Now I know there are people out there from my past who are thinking, “I bet you’re still an asshole.” But I also know there are people who know me now that are surprised (hopefully).
It took a while for me to create this website. Mainly because every day I’d look at my to-do list and the top one would be “Build the Play With Fire website.” How daunting is that? Answer: super daunting. The thought of how much work it would take to build a full website today left me too overwhelmed to do any of it. I wouldn’t even start. What’s the point? And that’s why there’s no website and you’re not reading this. The end.
We’ve all been in arguments that go on so long that someone finally chuckles, “What were we fighting about again?” Then the other person chuckles. You chuckle together and almost make up, until one of you remembers and starts the fight again.
A lot of us are passionate about our jobs. We put in a lot of work and do the best we can. So it’s hard when other people don’t appreciate that work. Here are some simple steps to take next time you’re about to spit on the client.
Everything you do is based on choices you make. There are times when the choice is easy, and there are times when the decision is hard. (Duh, what’s your point?) Here’s a tip to make the hard decisions seem easy. Ready?
There are many perks to freelancing: You feel like your own boss. You can work from home. Or the park. You feel distanced from office politics. You don’t have to put in face time, or pretend to work. You’re probably making more money. etc(s). So how does that help you fulltimers?
Back when I was anxious, I was a big proponent of “tough love.” My biggest changes always seemed to come after extreme pain, or hurt, or someone yelling at me. So be anxious. Focus on your anxiety. Spiral into obsession getting worse each day. Hit rock bottom. Big changes. Yay! There is another way, though (thank god!)
I used to get eczema on my face when I was nervous (all the time), so I took a year off looking in the mirror. I learned to shave by feel, stare downward during elevator rides, and drive recklessly. When I finally did look in the mirror again, a funny thing happened. I smiled.
Got a big meeting? Huge presentation? Ginormous job interview? Humungaginormalungous date? Feeling nervous? Here are some tips.
The problem with problems is that even if you take the time and effort to fix each and every one of them, there’ll be others to replace them. Luckily they all have one thing in common: the feeling of stress.
I don’t want you to just accept and say yes to every idea, but I want you to second it. I don’t care how shitty the idea is, somebody, anybody, has to add to it. Build off it in some way before you move on.
It took me years to find my voice as a writer. Maybe I still haven’t found it. I mean, is this is? Is my voice just me questioning myself? Ignore this part, the post itself is helpful.