“Yes, and” you’re successful!

Wanna feel successful? Realize your days are already filled with successes.

Gonna get all High School Valedictorian speech and say, Oxford Dictionary defines “success” as: the achievement of a desired result or outcome; the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.

Which means, by definition, you could aim to brush your teeth, accomplish brushing your teeth, and that is a success. Then strut around knowing you’ve already been successful today!

To which you might think, “Technically yes, BUT…”

But brushing teeth isn’t a big enough achievement.

But it doesn’t make money.

But it’s not growing as a person.

But I can’t brag about it on social media.

But but buuuuut…

To which I say, remember the power of “Yes, AND.”

Making millions of dollars is a measurement of success.

Yes.

ANNNND… so is getting out of bed. (It’s so warm and comfy!)

Maybe you didn’t climb Everest today (lazy), but you did go for a walk. That might not be considered “worthy” of other people lifting you up and chanting your name, but it is worthy of YOU celebrating.

YES, celebrate the big achievements, AND the little ones. Clock enough little ones and they’ll start to feel big, too.

“I wrote a book today!”

“Yes! And I made a sandwich!”

“Look at us, just two successful people!”

Use your First Time Forgiveness™

Even perfectionists need to give themselves some leniency the first time they try something new. First time you ever sit down at a piano, the expectation can’t be that you instantly play a perfect concerto. Second time, yes, obviously you should be concert-ready, but first time?! There’s gotta be some “First Time Forgiveness.”

Now, keep FTF in mind when I say, every single conversation you have in life, you’re having for the first time. Even conversations you feel like you’re having for the 100th time, it’s never happened in this exact context, with these exact words. Some part of it is always new.

Everything we do has some degree of newness. Some percentage of it is happening for the first time. And the percentage that’s happening for the first time needs to come with FTF.

Let’s say you go to your first improv class. Congrats, btw. And you and the class play the improv game where each person takes a turn adding one word to the story. Afterwards, you think, “That was hilarious, improv is amazing, and the story was fun, but wasn’t… perfect.” But hey, it’s your first time ever, so you can’t be too hard on yourself.

Then you play the same game again, but this time going in reverse order of the class. Second time, so you gotta think you’ll be better than the first time, but technically it is your first time going in this order.

Then you play it again, but this time in teams of two. Third time overall, but first time in pairs.

It could be your 100th time playing it, and something will always be different, new, the first time.

So when it doesn’t go perfectly (because things don’t, and that wouldn’t be as fun anyway) and you want to judge yourself, you have to factor in FTF. Instead of beating yourself up thinking, “I should be 100% great at this by now,” think, “I should be 80% great at this by now. But I should also go 20% easy on myself because it’s the first time playing it with these people, in this order, with this instructor, in these shoes… (or whatever is new this time).”

If there’s anything you’re being hard on yourself about right now, take a moment to think about what percentage was new/different this time. “I’ve done this presentation a thousand times… but never at this venue.” “I’ve met new people before… but never this person.” “I’ve done backflips plenty of times… but not usually with the whole office watching… anyway, here goes!”

Even if it’s only 1% different. Give yourself that 1% forgiveness for not being perfect. After all, you can’t be expected to be perfect, you’re living this exact moment for literally the first time.

26 Ways Improv Can Help You In 2026

Improv helps with everything!

Did you write a list of New Year’s Resolutions with the plan to do a bunch of different tasks to achieve those goals? Simplify, man! Just do improv!

Improv helps you…

1) Laugh more.

2) Play characters that don’t have your problems.

3) Get out of your head.

4) Be silly and be okay being silly.

5) Practice failing and recovering.

6) Use your imagination to create wonderful things.

7) Tell fascinating stories.

8) Move your body in interesting ways.

9) Think differently and be okay with others thinking differently.

10) Adapt to the unexpected.

11) Let go of expectations.  

12) Surprise yourself! (Improv gets you doing things you had no idea you could do.)

13) Be open to the ideas of others.

14) Love and support the ideas of others.  

15) Connect with people on a deeper level.

16) Judge less. Yourself and others.

17) Accept things as they are. It’s not settling, just not denying.  

18) Take yourself and any “failings” as little less seriously.

19) Trust yourself more. You can do this.  

20) Feel more confident.

21) Make bold choices. (Or make any decision, then boldly follow through.)

22) Make new friends.

23) Know that you are enough.

24) Release stress from your body and mind.

25) Focus on all the little moments of joy.

26) Play!

If you like the sounds of that, reach out to book an improv workshop today!

Top 5 New Year’s Resolutions for 2026 (and how improv can help)

#1 Stress less

A popular resolution these days. Because, let’s be honest, the world is messed up. And I mean messed up. Like, don’t even get me started on… wait, what were we talking about? Oh, improv.

While improv might not be able to “fix” the world, it can help reduce stress with movement, creativity, and laughter, and build stress resilience by practicing different ways to respond to things. Also, it’s fun. And it’s nice to have fun.

#2 Be less anxious

This one’s quite personal to me, it was my #1 resolution for over a decade straight. Anxiety kept me from enjoying life. Hell, it kept me from participating in life. I don’t need to go into how much anxiety sucks, you get it. Let’s move to the helpful part.

Improv can lessen anxiety by building a safe space to play and feel joy. And can increase confidence knowing you can handle the unexpected.

#3 Get better at public speaking

Being able to present yourself in front of others is a big part of today’s work world. And friend world. And dating world. It’s just a good all ‘round skill.

With improv, it’s not about learning how to speak “perfectly,” but learning to mess up royally, recover with ease, and continue with confidence.

#4 Be more confident

Wanna be one of those super confident people strutting around knowing that whatever the world throws their way, things will turn out okay? I mean, the strutting part is optional, but with improv, you get to practice making bold choices, playing confident “characters,” and learning to think on your feet with such aplomb that you’ll never seem thrown off.

#5 Be more creative

Remember when, as kids, we could just slap paint on a piece of paper with our hands and call it art? Then remember when we learned to judge ourselves and others and find flaws in everything? Now’s your chance to unlearn all of that judgement, and give over to the wonderful world of “Yes, and!”

Bonus #6 Spend less time on social media

There isn’t really a specific improv workshop for this, but improv takes place not on a phone with other humans who are also not on their phones. Sounds scary, I know, but you’ll be having too much fun to notice.

Start the year strong with improv!

How to Measure “Soft Skills” in Improv Training: Increased Confidence

Building Boldness with Improv

Let’s say your goal is to increase your team’s confidence, so you book them for some training. After the training, how do you know they’re now more confident? The obvious answer would be, well, are they acting more confident? So let’s define what that means.

It’s most likely not going to be a complete transformation. Like, if they never used to speak up in meetings at all, I doubt they’ll suddenly present their ideas through interpretive song and dance. Think of behavioural change more in terms of a sliding scale. And you can gauge an increase in confidence by having one simple measurement to compare against: Fear.

On one end of the scale, you have anxiety (stress, burnout, overwhelm) and on the other end we have confidence (with a couple stops along the way).

So, to measure the success of the workshop, you need to know where you’re starting from. How scared are they to do things right now, and how much less scared are they to do those things after the workshop? The goal being to slide up the scale.

When it comes to “acting” more confident, here’s an example of how their actions could look along The Confidence Scale™:

Again, it’s a sliding scale. Sometimes they might act courageous, but under pressure switch to panic and yell, or shut down completely. No judgement, we all feel it. Improv For Confidence™ workshops are just about sliding a little further on the scale (not judging people for where they are now).

Here’s an example of how to gauge their current confidence when it comes to a key leadership skill:

Unfortunately, many people get stuck at the insecurity stage, and make fear-based decisions (what they think the client would want, what they think would stay within budget, what would be safest, least likely to get them in trouble, etc.) but try to make themselves and others believe they’re confident.

This might not be the most scientific as far as a direct measuring tool, but you can often tell when decisions are made out of fear/insecurity and when they’re courageous/confident. And while fear can help motivate a decision, it’s not always the best one.

What to look for during the next brainstorming session:

You’ll know there’s an increase in confidence by the amount of “Yeses” versus “No’s.” The voice of reason, devil’s advocate, whatever you want to call it, is in reality, just fear talking. You want people with the courage to explore ideas, not shoot them down before they start.

In short, here’s how you measure success when training the “soft skill” of confidence.

1. Get a sense of where they are now on The Confidence Scale™.

2. Do an Improv For Confidence™ workshop (or a few).

3. Mark where they are after.

Our goal is to move them further along the scale. To change their belief in themselves, so they call the shots more than letting fear lead the way.

Improv will help you build a more confident team. Which, as you already suspect (enough to be looking into confidence training), and will soon see, is definitely a good thing.